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I feel like I could have written this myself. Except instead of feeling exhausted, I would actually get high off it (unless we were talking about money, then I would come away feeling like I had been placed in a rock tumbler).

But it wasn’t a grounded high. It wasn’t a sustainable high. It was a drug high. And it kept me in for 7 years. It was what I just learned from another article I read on here is called “dissociative expansiveness.” And it runs rampant in spiritual communities. Those who have mastered it the most tend to end up at the top, so the followers learn this behavior - in fact are encouraged to emulate it. And someone in this state is SO EASY to manipulate, because they don’t have their feet on the ground.

I love what Botis taught you - I have adopted the same philosophy. Especially with people in leadership. My therapist helped me with this tremendously. She said “narcissists are drawn to positions of leadership and power.” So I now start with the assumption that if someone has pulled themselves into leadership, they are operating from that place. Until they prove me otherwise. It works like a dream and I haven’t felt more anchored in myself in my entire life.

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