In my articles I try to look from different angels at some main topics of A Course in Miracles and make them accessible in a modern way.

Guilt is the most prominent of these topics, not because there is a real need to feel guilty for breaking some (divine) rules, like most religions want to make us believe, but because this feeling hides in many different forms and is always untrue. We are often not even aware, that guilt is behind our negative emotions and problems in the world. In fact the course tells us:

Of one thing you were sure: Of all the many causes you perceived as bringing pain and suffering to you, your guilt was not among them.


T 27. VII

We have huge resistances against looking for guilt as the main cause of suffering. We would rather admit, that fear, uncertainty and doubt are the cause of it and project it on situations and others, before seeing it in ourselves. Not looking at it, guarantees its survival and it seems to work very well.

Meet Guilt’s children: FUD & Fomo

Two modern ways guilt shows up, are called FUD & FOMO. These are spreading like wildfire – thanks to the internet – to split minds all over our illusionary world.

FUD is short for fear, uncertainty and doubt and as the word suggests, they often show up as one emotion: the fear of an uncertain future and the doubt, that in this future, things will work out in a positive way.
FUD plays perfect into the ego’s story, that I (or someone else) have done something wrong and will therefor be punished in the near future.
It is literally nothing else but this belief in punishment for „being wrong“ that is fueling it.

Be aware, that FUD is not the problem – it’s just a very welcome expression of the belief in guilt. In other words: FUD doesn’t cause guilt, but our belief in guilt, makes FUD even possible! We search for it, to prove its reality and this costs us enormous amounts of energy.

The other „new“ emotion that we experience is guilt projected into time (past and/or future) and is very similar in its essence.  The basic belief here is: „I have done something wrong in the past, and I should have known better!“ and we set this in relation to others, who have mysteriously „done it right“.

The Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is exactly this. We see a world full of people doing „the right thing“ and we think, we are missing out on the many opportunities. We feel guilty for missing out. This enhances our feelings of lack.

The funny thing here is, that „the others“ also feel this way. So we are basically in good company with many people feeling all the same.
The question then becomes: Who are „the others“ that are doing it right, when everyone is feeling guilty for missing out?

It’s hilarious to see, how fast FUD and FOMO can replace each other in a matter of seconds. The reason for this is, that they are based on the same feeling of guilt.

The real reason for guilt: The secret dream

Again, it’s important to realize, that FUD and FOMO are only the ego’s welcome guests, that make guilt real to us. Behind this dream (or better: nightmare) is, what ACIM calls „the secret dream“. Therein lies the true reason, why we are looking for proof of guilt’s existence in the world of form.

„The secret dream“ is, that we have separated from God and that we now have an independent existence. We are suddenly on our own, with an individual will and all the consequences thereof.

We feel guilty for having seemingly done the impossible and we will face a certain punishment from some higher power. This is the story that is the basis of the ego and its world of form. Everything there seems to play into it and it’s a 100% fool-proof system. Only it’s not true. It’s all made up.

To get in touch with this primordial guilt we can trace its expressions in form (like FUD & FOMO) or look for a generalized feeling of doom and punishment in us. Every time something good happens in our life, look for one (or more) of these feelings:

  • I don’t deserve it
  • It will be taken away from me soon
  • Something bad is going to happen to counter/balance it (like some karmic equilibrium thing…)
  • Something’s wrong, because normally good things don’t happen to me (= the cosmic victim role)

These are all variations of the same topic of guilt and our underlying belief, that we deserve to be punished because we are wrong.

This is not so much the belief, that we have done something wrong (which we would be able to correct), but much more the feeling that we are wrong at our core. This feeling of core wrongness is the automatic result of the belief in separation and that we are a physical body in form.

In other words: If you think, that you are a human body, living in the world of form, you are automatically feeling guilty. This is the underlying „secret dream“ the Course speaks of.

We have to get in touch with this core guilt through the practice the Course calls „looking“. This means, to just be aware of what I have described above without judging it as bad or wrong.

We are all the same. We all have this belief in a body and in the reality of separation, that is enforced through judging and projection, the main practices of our ego. „Looking“ therefore means, to look at something without judgement and projection – in this case, all the ways we make guilt real for us.

These are the first steps in becoming awake. We practice this our whole life and as long as we think that we are humans in a physical body. It’s not much that is asked from us, but it needs continuous vigilance for the topic of guilt in its endless forms.

Much Love and Blessings,

Atmos 🕊

7 COMMENTS

  1. So Atmos, once we identify a thought as being merely an expression of our belief in guilt (I was going to write ‘an expression of our guilt’), are we supposed to do something with it? Like ask the HS for help in undoing this belief, or ‘hand it over to the HS’, or 15 Hail Mary’s…..? hehe

    PS: I see you sometimes on ACIMentor, and I really love your blog. I don’t see many/any comments though, and I hope this doesn’t mean you will stop helping us….!!!

    • Dear Laurie!

      Sorry for answering late. Actually, this blog is rather new on my own domain. I used to write my stuff on a social media site and there I got much more comments.

      About your question, I would definitely go for the Hail Mary’s! haha
      It depends on what you mean with “do with it”.
      Handing it over to the HS is not a doing in my experience. Also “looking with the HS” is much more undoing than a doing.
      Forgiveness is defined in the course as “it merely looks and waits and judges not”. So, in the end, looking at the belief in guilt in your mind without judging it, already is handing it over to the HS.
      The HS is the sane part of your Mind. Looking with it means to be in this sane part. They are just different names for the same thing.

      Thank you for commenting and I will keep on writing for sure!

  2. Thanks for replying Atmos. I guess I am confused about the ‘undoing’ process. When I notice the thoughts I am having (or how I am behaving) and don’t do a mea culpa on myself I feel better for sure and figure I must be in my ‘right mind’. What confuses me is that three days later the same issue may come into my awareness, but this time it’s a whole different experience. Judgment and self-rejection descend and seem to envelop my whole consciousness and it can be hours or days until they recede. I know I am in ego crazy land, that this too will pass and that I am choosing this (given that I remember the other day when I just smiled at these insane thoughts) etc. So where does the ‘forgive and this will go away’ part come into it? I thought that if I saw through my ego shenanigans they would no longer recur, but I seem to be forgiving the same projections over and over again. I am not expecting the thoughts and behaviors to change necessarily, just some continuity in my acceptance of them and to not take them so seriously.
    Any thoughts on what am I missing?

    • Hi Laurie!

      I remember, that on my journey I often had moments where something appeared that I thought I had previously forgiven, so I let it go again and again and there it was again coming back like a boomerang. I was not so gentle like you, and thought: “Why does this shit not go way!!!”. 😉 It’s not like we can throw forgiveness like lightning bolts on stuff so that it goes away.
      Forgiveness doesn’t heal people or situations – Forgiveness heals you!

      I would say, that forgiveness is not something you do, but it’s a state of mind. Our ego has the tendency to think of forgiveness as a final solution, that results in what the course calls “forgiveness-to-destroy”.
      The ego will always comment and never shut up as long as there is the slightest belief in guilt and separation. The good news is, that it hasn’t to. It gives us the opportunity to practice the Holy Instant – right now.

      What really helped me with this was the realization, that there always is a purpose when identifying with recurring judgments. So I started to question “What is the purpose of my upset?” or “Why do I want to be upset right now, instead of being in peace?”
      This requires a certain honesty with yourself, to find out that it is your will right now to be judgemental and self-rejecting.
      Your ego will of course tell you, that you don’t want to feel this way, but this is a lie. It wants to feel guilty because this proves its existence.

      This reverses cause and effect – a very important topic.
      The cause for your guilt is not a situation and not even your thoughts.
      It’s the other way round: Your will to feel guilty causes situations and thoughts that prove its validity.

      Thank you for being an inspiration for one of my next articles! <3

      Love,

      Atmos

  3. I’ve so much to add, but I can’t say I really care for all the typing :-).

    Your response has been very, very helpful – I even invoked the process tonight while working and (voila!), peace restored immediately.

    Make sure you at least finish your article with the last paragraph you wrote above. In fact, if possible include it a few times throughout. We egos are a stubborn, obstinate bunch! It was that reminder that helped me tonight as I started down the rabbit hole to follow a thread going through my mind. Caught myself, reversed cause and effect and chuckled.

    All that had happened is that I must have become afraid of the lightness I was feeling tonight. LOL, hardly a sin right?

    In appreciation,

    Laurie

    P.S. I’m no punctuation expert, but I think you might have a special relationship with commas…..Hehe

    • Dear Laurie!

      I’m glad that it helped! It’s true, that I should include the cause/effect part in this and in every other article, but this would also be true for the principle that we are Mind and not the body and many other basic principles of the course. I just try to focus on some core parts in every article, that come from inspiration by the HS (or by you in this case – which is basically the same).
      Enjoy your HS-High! 🙂
      About the commas… oh, well… I’m Austrian and in German we use a lot of commas and punctuation is very different – I’ll try to use less… 🙂

  4. Oh please… I could only find them annoying if annoyed is what I wanted to feel. I believe you just reminded me of that!!

    Keep the commas coming. When I no longer notice them, that’s one of the indications I will have that will show me that I am no longer afraid of God’s love.

    I notice am learning quite quickly these days to look behind the facade of what is happening to the symbolism behind it. Again, something your blogs have reminded me of. So, of course you are right, let’s step back and let Him lead the way….

    Peace Brother to you, and kudos to myself for turning this corner and finding you…

    Laurie

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