Let’s be honest, when people speak about unconditional love, it is often done as some kind of ideal, no one can ever reach, or without knowing, what it really means at all.
I want to bring you some insights on this widely misunderstood topic.
This won’t be a fluffy article with rainbows and unicorns though, because unconditional love is something that will hurt a lot. It’s not for the faint-hearted and It will kill every tiny aspect of Ego left in you.
It is the path of the most courageous ones…
Meet my life story
In my own life’s journey, I thought for many years, that it was all about wisdom – to know and find out, who I really am. Through hundreds of workshops, endless teachers and thousands of books, I tried to reach the lofty goal of enlightenment. Even granted with deep enlightening experiences and falling away of the ego, this was only a preparation for the toughest part, that was yet to come: The Path of Unconditional Love.
Some years ago I got on the path of Love through my teacher Matt Kahn.
Back then, I still had all the images of what Love means – that everything is safely guarded in a huge pink cloud of „all is well“.
I was in a relationship with the love of my life and I loved her every day more and more – immensely!
Then on my 40ies birthday, she told me, that she will leave me. She wanted her old life back – going back to her beloved town and her friends, that meant the world to her. She couldn’t stand my Love and I was suddenly nothing to her.
From one day to the other and without blinking, she was gone.
The thing was, that I not only thought my world was ending, but I believed, that this was already the worst that could happen to me. I was wrong.
For many months afterwards and without having any physical contact with her, because she broke down all bridges like a boss, I felt her having sex with many different people. It was like being tortured 24/7 – energetically.
In my innocent empathic heart, I even thought, that this was just happening in my imagination and it was not true. It was true, as I found out later – every part of it – and from there on, it got even worse.
She basically was living the opposite life, than the one we had together. Sex, Drugs & Rock n’ Roll – like a teenager, that wanted to show the world its independence. A life without virtue. A life as a full-time commercial for the world of Ego.
I got betrayed, humiliated, ridiculed, abandoned, tortured and spit on by a professional grade narcissist.
The true meaning of the crucification
If the above story reminds you of someone you know, you may be right.
Our friend Jesus had similar experiences, when he brought the message of Love. It was not, that everyone was happy and said „Yo, Jesus, mate – thanks for bringing us this awesome message! We never thought about this Love stuff and from now on, we will make it a priority in our life’s! Thanks man, very appreciated!“
That would have been another story – a much shorter one, one without blood, war and cruelty.
Moving forward some 2000 years later, we are not very much further.
It simply shows the power of the Ego, that will only „love“ what it likes.
One of the messages I got by my spiritual guides on my situation was, that my ex-partner was manifesting my ego, to show me all of it’s cruelty.
She is my ego in form – and this is meant literally!
I have the immense privilege to witness the life of my Ego and how it looks like from a distance. My ego had separated from me. If I would write a book about this story, it would be called „Divorce your Ego!“
The thing with all this pain and suffering is, that this is not some kind of karma or a way of an unmerciful God, to punish you for your sins.
The message is not in the pain and suffering, since they are only side effects of your Egos death.
What hurts so much, is the death of all the images and believes that have become the hidden rules of how Love should look like.
It’s the end of the human way of Love and the beginning of Divine Unconditional Love!
What unconditional Love really looks like
Unconditional Love is nothing you (as the Ego) would or could strive for. It’s not a gradual process by any means. It’s all or nothing. You can’t love „more unconditionally every day“ – you either do or you don’t.
This may sound harsh and ruin your view of this fluffy goal of „once becoming unconditional loving“.
The reason for that is, that egos can’t love unconditionally. The very definition of Ego is conditioning and time.
If all conditions end, time ends and the Ego ends. This is the short description.
So in my above real life example, it means to be this Love, even thoughmy ex-partner does everything unimaginable under the sun.
Again, the pain that comes with this, is not the goal, but the result of the process of Ego death. Every pain, is the Ego screaming and fighting for survival
So the next time, there is immense pain inside of you, you will know, that there is some heavy Ego clearing going on at the moment.
There is another thing, my guides told me:
„The lesson in all this, is to teach you to become unconditional Love!“
If you love someone and he/she loves you back, this is a wonderful thing.
I wish every Soul to make this experience, but you can’t learn unconditional Love this way. Unconditional Love means, that there is no demand whatsoever to get anything back (nor ever will).
It means to Love, even though you are spit into the face.
It means to Love, even though you are betrayed, humiliated, ridiculed, abandoned and tortured.
This Love has to be pure. It has to be so refined and pure, that there is not a single trace of neediness or entitlement.
Unconditional Love is Pure Love
The reason, I’m writing about such a de-light-full topic in such a heavy tone, is because all the fairy tales about Love have to end.
I recently saw a book on unconditional Love and the chapters were: „How to reach your goals with UL“, „How to make the Law of Attraction work with UL“ and „How to find your Soul Mate with UL“ etc.
This is ridiculously funny and the way, human egos try to put conditions even on unconditional Love. What makes this so tragic though is, that many people can’t even see, what they are doing right there. You can’t reach any goals with unconditional Love, because there are no goals in it! It simply doesn’t work this way…
What is also funny, while I’m writing this, I can see the need inside, that I want to end the article with something enduring, that will make unconditional Love attractive for your Ego.
So how do you make death an attraction? Is this even possible?
The one thing I want to tell you is, that if you are on the path of unconditional Love, you will know.
It’s not something you can decide on the Ego level anyway.
This decision has been made on a Soul level and is something your Ego will perceive as destiny. So this is not optional.
Maybe the good thing is, that you are on a totally different path. There are many nice spiritual paths out there and many other frequencies that want to be embodied. So not everyone needs to be on the path of Pure Love.
If you are, you will know by now (or at least after reading this article).
This Pure Love does not only effect special relationships with cruel ex-partners. It may show up this way, but once you are in the frequency of Pure Unconditional Love, your whole life is flooded with this energy.
It’s so strong, that there is not a single cell in your body that is unaffected by this. You have become free of any need and demand. It’s pure strength, because it is unaffected by the outside world.
Pure Love is the most blissful experience there is. It is unshakable, because there is nothing that can be threatened anymore. Fear has gone. Heaven has arrived. Everything that hurts, is just a sign of the Ego being burned in the flames of this Love – for the collective and the wellbeing of all.
The coal has been transformed into a pure diamond – the essence of Alchemy. Everything and everyone coming in contact with this energy is transformed, just by its pure presence.
Your whole life becomes the answer to the question, which virtue should be embodied next.
Nothing of this is personal. It is not even human.
It’s not being „me“ in relationship with anyone.
It’s Pure Love shining in all its glory.
Blessings and much Love,