The Vertical Connection Practice

Advanced relationship techniques using LUX sovereignty to love without losing yourself

For paid subscribers: The Energenetics® approach to relationships that maintains your essence while deepening intimacy. PLUS 7 specific techniques for maintaining your vertical connection and a 4 weeks Integrations program to transform your relationships forever.

She sat across from me at the coffee shop, tears streaming down her face.

“I don’t understand what happened,” she said. “We used to be so close. But lately, every conversation with him drains me completely. I love him, but I feel like I’m disappearing.”

I recognized the pattern immediately. She was describing what I call “horizontal relationship addiction” - the unconscious merging of energy fields that feels like intimacy but actually creates codependency, energy drain, and loss of authentic self.

After twenty years of relationship coaching, I had seen this pattern destroy more partnerships than infidelity, financial stress, or sexual incompatibility combined.

But I also discovered something special: there’s a completely different way to love that actually strengthens your individual essence while deepening genuine intimacy.

It’s called Vertical Connection - and it changes everything about how relationships work.

Most people have never experienced true intimacy because they’ve been trained in horizontal energy exchange that masquerades as love but actually creates dependency and depletion.

This new approach to relationships is a core component of Module 6 in the Energenetics® Foundations Program, where we explore the complete system of vertical connection - not just in relationships, but as a way of being that transforms every aspect of your life.

The practice I’m sharing today gives you a taste of what becomes possible when you stop seeking connection through energy exchange and start loving from your own sovereign fullness.

What you’re about to learn will revolutionize every relationship in your life.

The Horizontal Relationship Trap

In horizontal relationships, you connect chakra-to-chakra, heart-to-heart, energy field-to-energy field. This seems natural - even romantic. “Our hearts are connected,” we say. “We share energy.”

But here’s what actually happens in horizontal connection:

Energy Contamination: Your partner’s emotions become your emotions. Their stress becomes your stress. Their patterns trigger your patterns in an endless feedback loop.

Boundary Dissolution: You lose track of where you end and they begin. You start taking responsibility for their feelings and expecting them to manage yours.

Energy Vampirism: One person unconsciously drains the other, leaving the giver exhausted and the taker dependent but never truly satisfied.

Identity Merger: You suppress aspects of yourself to maintain the connection, slowly losing your authentic expression in favor of relationship harmony.

Projection Amplification: You see your own unintegrated patterns reflected in them, creating constant triggers and conflicts about things that are actually internal issues.

This isn’t love - it’s energetic codependency disguised as intimacy.

The Hidden Cost of Horizontal Connection

What most people don’t realize is that horizontal connection creates what I call “energetic debt cycles.” Every time you give your energy away to maintain harmony, or take energy from someone to feel better, you create an imbalance that must eventually be repaid. This is why even “loving” relationships often feel like exhausting negotiations rather than joyful partnerships.

The Vertical Connection Revolution

Vertical Connection operates on a completely different principle:

Instead of connecting directly to each other, you each connect to your own LUX essence first, then let your individual sovereignty create the relationship field.

Think of it like two trees growing side by side. Each tree has deep roots (your vertical LUX connection) and reaches toward the sky (your authentic expression). Their branches might intertwine beautifully, but each tree maintains its own life force, its own integrity, its own essential nature.

In Vertical Connection:

• You remain fully connected to your own LUX essence throughout the interaction

• Your partner connects to their own essence (whether they know LUX or not)

• Your relationship becomes the dance between two sovereign beings rather than the merger of two incomplete halves

• Love flows FROM fullness rather than seeking fullness through the other person

This creates what I call “Sovereign Intimacy” - deeper connection through maintained individuality rather than false unity through dissolution.

The Physics of Vertical Connection

When you establish vertical connection through your LUX essence, you create what I call a “torus field” around your energy system - a self-sustaining, self-renewing energetic structure that doesn’t need to extract power from others. This field can overlap with another person’s field without compromising either person’s sovereignty. It’s intimacy through resonance rather than merger.

The LUX Sovereignty Practice for Relationships

Here’s the specific protocol I’ve developed for maintaining your LUX connection while engaging in intimate relationships: