Spiritual Narcissism Exposed - How spiritual narcissism hijacks sovereignty language, why true sovereignty leads to wanting less not more, and when "I am everything" becomes the most dangerous lie.
I feel like what I see a lot is like white women with a certain degree of privelege using patriarchy-feminism meets spiritual bypass word salad to justify what feels like class warfare. Performative serenity, calm words with a compassionate look claiming lower vibration, “lesson learning”, and other fancy talk to justify not feeling and looking at the real complexity and value in someone in a different social, economic, and educational class—someone who doesn’t mirror their own golden calves and power structure who doesn’t take their desired set in the hierarchy below them.
...while believing they are spiritual advanced and bringing "light" into the world. Yes. I wouldn't say it's just "white women" though (maybe because I don't use social media 😅). Men are doing it differently.
This reminds me of something I learned at a tantra school when we studied the realms of suffering- there was one called the ‘god realm’ where people are suffering from the delusion of thinking they have special connection to god that the poor masses lack. And they don’t even know they’re suffering.
Spiritual narcissism is one of the top 10 conversation topics in my marriage. Bcs we never met as many narcissists as in the spiritual scene. It’s crazy because you’d think it’s different…but it’s wild. Once you see them, you can’t unsee ☺️
Yes, it's very common and hidden behind a wall of "love and light". I wouldn't recommend to bring this topic into your marriage though, if you want to stay in the relationship 😂
Absolutely! It's been 10 years now and one of the best things ever happened to me. I didn't realize this back then because I was so under her narcissistic spell. Anyways, it sharpened my spidey senses for these things.
I had to cut ties with someone last year because of spiritual narcissism. Ironically, they did help me on my path (he had a lot of knowledge) and even the cutting of ties was me stepping into sovereignty (boundaries!).
The scariest part about some of these people is that the narcissism allows them to cultivate a following and they can end up as cult leaders (this was my experience in two instances). They can do a lot of harm to a lot of people because of this.
This felt like a mirror held steady in stormlight — sharp, clear, unflinching. You’ve named something I’ve often felt but never quite found words for: how easily the language of awakening can become a mask for ego, a way to feel vast without ever becoming real.
The “I Am Everything” trap is such a seductive lie — spirituality without humility, light turned into performance. True sovereignty feels quieter than that. It isn’t about claiming more, but needing less; not expansion, but surrender.
There’s such relief in what you describe — the simple, human grace of enough. The way you write it feels like a return to that: the steady beam that doesn’t ask to be seen, only to guide.
Spiritual bypassing is rampant right now! Thanks for this. It makes my stomach turn too! All the performative spiritual healing going on, when it’s just a mask for more of the same old darkness!
Basically all I write and all courses I offer are about sovereignty. Starting from my (very gentle) book to the sharper recent articles and courses. If you want to learn more about my Energenetics approach please visit https://atmos.black/ - for questions feel free to drop me a DM 🙏
I have a soul-resonance with this article.
I feel like what I see a lot is like white women with a certain degree of privelege using patriarchy-feminism meets spiritual bypass word salad to justify what feels like class warfare. Performative serenity, calm words with a compassionate look claiming lower vibration, “lesson learning”, and other fancy talk to justify not feeling and looking at the real complexity and value in someone in a different social, economic, and educational class—someone who doesn’t mirror their own golden calves and power structure who doesn’t take their desired set in the hierarchy below them.
I see this everywhere.
...while believing they are spiritual advanced and bringing "light" into the world. Yes. I wouldn't say it's just "white women" though (maybe because I don't use social media 😅). Men are doing it differently.
Fair. I have a particular filter because of the circles I currently associate with.
This reminds me of something I learned at a tantra school when we studied the realms of suffering- there was one called the ‘god realm’ where people are suffering from the delusion of thinking they have special connection to god that the poor masses lack. And they don’t even know they’re suffering.
Sadly this is 80 % of the coaching world :(
Spiritual narcissism is one of the top 10 conversation topics in my marriage. Bcs we never met as many narcissists as in the spiritual scene. It’s crazy because you’d think it’s different…but it’s wild. Once you see them, you can’t unsee ☺️
Yes, it's very common and hidden behind a wall of "love and light". I wouldn't recommend to bring this topic into your marriage though, if you want to stay in the relationship 😂
Why do you think my marriage will break because of this? It’s more like a connecting through spiritual gossip kind of thing 😂
Ah, in this case... Mine broke because my wife was the narcissist in question. 😅
That, of course, changes everything 😅 but it’s for your good then at least—which doesn’t mean it wasn’t painful
Absolutely! It's been 10 years now and one of the best things ever happened to me. I didn't realize this back then because I was so under her narcissistic spell. Anyways, it sharpened my spidey senses for these things.
I had to cut ties with someone last year because of spiritual narcissism. Ironically, they did help me on my path (he had a lot of knowledge) and even the cutting of ties was me stepping into sovereignty (boundaries!).
The scariest part about some of these people is that the narcissism allows them to cultivate a following and they can end up as cult leaders (this was my experience in two instances). They can do a lot of harm to a lot of people because of this.
Great post, thank you!
This felt like a mirror held steady in stormlight — sharp, clear, unflinching. You’ve named something I’ve often felt but never quite found words for: how easily the language of awakening can become a mask for ego, a way to feel vast without ever becoming real.
The “I Am Everything” trap is such a seductive lie — spirituality without humility, light turned into performance. True sovereignty feels quieter than that. It isn’t about claiming more, but needing less; not expansion, but surrender.
There’s such relief in what you describe — the simple, human grace of enough. The way you write it feels like a return to that: the steady beam that doesn’t ask to be seen, only to guide.
Thank you! Very good summary 🙏
Spiritual bypassing is rampant right now! Thanks for this. It makes my stomach turn too! All the performative spiritual healing going on, when it’s just a mask for more of the same old darkness!
I enjoyed this immensely! Thank you
This was interesting to read. I guess there’s always going to be someone who justifies what they want using anything. Thanks for the examples
Spiritual Materialism is an oxymoron if there ever was one.
Too many fakes charlatans parading as spiritualists in this age !
Basically all I write and all courses I offer are about sovereignty. Starting from my (very gentle) book to the sharper recent articles and courses. If you want to learn more about my Energenetics approach please visit https://atmos.black/ - for questions feel free to drop me a DM 🙏