The LUX Recognition

When You Finally See What's Actually Yours

The one practice that reveals whether you’re living your design or performing someone else’s

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I was reviewing client files when a pattern jumped out at me.

Every single person who’d had a major breakthrough in our work together had experienced the same moment: they suddenly realized their “successful” life was built on someone else’s blueprint, not their own.

The high-achieving lawyer discovered her entire career was designed to earn her father’s approval. The spiritual teacher realized her gentle, nurturing persona was her mother’s vision of femininity, not her authentic expression. The entrepreneur saw that his business model was built around cultural expectations of success rather than his genetic gifts.

This is what I call the LUX Recognition moment - when you finally see your life from your own essence rather than through inherited programming, and realize how much of what you’ve built actually belongs to someone else’s design.

Most people spend decades constructing elaborate lives without ever asking the most fundamental question: Is this actually mine?

The Borrowed Life Epidemic

Here’s what I’ve discovered after years of working with highly successful people: the more impressive someone’s achievements look from the outside, the more likely they are to be living someone else’s design.

They’ve become masters at building what their family, culture, or peer group defined as “success” - often to the point where they can’t tell the difference between what they authentically want and what they’ve been programmed to pursue.

The achievement becomes a beautiful prison. The success becomes evidence of how effectively they’ve betrayed their own nature. The impressive life becomes proof of how completely they’ve forgotten who they actually are.

This isn’t conscious choice - it’s unconscious inheritance. They’ve absorbed blueprints for how life should look without ever checking whether those blueprints match their genetic design.

Here are several LUX practices for you, how to recognize what’s yours and what belongs to someone else: